Last weekend I met some of Mr. Persistent’s extended family at his cousin’s high school graduation party. Definitely realized the power of social media when we got there.
As we were walking up the driveway the small groups of people just stared at me and one person said, “There’s B.” It was so awkward.
His family is very nice and I had a good time. Afterwards, we went to his friend’s house. I had met his friend before, but not his wife. We drank and played card games, charades (on my phone) and sat by the fire. It was a lot of fun and I really like the guy’s wife.
Mr. Persistent thinks we are going to be friends, but I don’t think he understands that you hit a certain age and it’s incredibly difficult to make friends. Yes, I really like her and I’m glad if the four of us hang out again I’ll have someone to talk to. However, I really don’t foresee us hanging out just the two of us.
Shortly after we got there, he showed me the room we were going to sleep in. I was very confused. He didn’t tell me we weren’t going back to his place so I didn’t have any eye things with me. I have terrible eyesight and need glasses or contacts at all times. If I sleep in my contacts, I need lots of eye drops. I was incredibly annoyed. If you are basically blind, I think you understand where I’m coming from. Normally I keep eye drops with me, but I only brought my wallet and phone since it seemed like it was going to be a short evening.
Then I did something I don’t normally do…
I told him how I felt. I know, right? I was really impressed with myself. He knew something was wrong with me and asked. Normally, I would be all sulky and go, “I’m fine.” *cue really snobby and annoyed tone of voice.* However, I said, “I would appreciate it if you would tell me if you think we’re not coming back to your place so I can be prepared and bring my glasses.”
He has perfect eyesight and before he got his Lasik, he had minimal problems, so I don’t think he understands how difficult not being eye-prepared is. The wife is a nurse and had saline syringes, so I used that before I went to bed. When I woke up, though, my eyes were in rough shape and I had to take my contacts out and blindly be guided to his truck when we left.
During that night (or early morning), as I was heading up to bed he told me very clearly, “I love you.” I must have given him a look because he immediately recanted and said, “I mean, I love all of you” and did a hand motion. Then he came to the room to check on me a little while later and we hugged and he said, “I just want to tell you that I love you, but think it’s too early.”
I just don’t know what to do. I haven’t brought it up because he had been drinking and I think he gets a free pass for that and he’s not really said it to me sober. The majority of me wants to say it to him, but there’s small part that is all, “wait…you’ve only been dating for three months.” And technically, it’s only been two since we declared ourselves “official”.
Tomorrow I am going to his cousin’s wedding and will meet more family. I’m having a minor panic attack about it. He is in the wedding, so his parents are picking me up tomorrow afternoon. I’ll get to ride in the limo with him for pictures, but I’m sure I’ll have to be alone with his parents at the reception dinner since he’ll be at the head table.
I think I’m more worked up about this than I should be because I’ve never been to a wedding, much less as the date of someone in the party. I also don’t know his family very well, so it’s just very nerve-wracking.
I’ve also heard that Mr. Persistent has a drunk alter-ego named “Steve”. This will be a very interesting and pivotal weekend in our relationship, I think. Wish me luck!!